7400:441/541-001
Family Relationships: Middle
& Later Years
Instructor:
Prof. David Witt
The Simple Life
Here's a quiz from a recent PBS series about spending and
materialism
called
Affluenza.
1. Which of the following is comparable to the size of a typical
three-car
garage?a. a basketball court b. a
McDonald's restaurant c. an
"RV" (recreational vehicle) d. the average home in 1950.
Answer: d. Many of today's
three-car garages occupy 900 square
feet,
just about the average size of an entire home in the 1950s. Many people
use the extra garage space to store things they own and seldom use.
Often
we hear that Americans have lost ground economically and have less
purchasing
power. But Americans are buying more luxurious items, partly by working
more and going deeply into debt. The homes they live in and the cars
they
drive today are often bigger and more technologically advanced than
those
purchased by their parents.
2. The percentage of Americans calling themselves "very happy"
reached
its highest point in what year? a. 1957 b. 1967 c. 1977 d. 1987
Answer: a. The number of
"very happy" people peaked in 1957, and
has remained fairly stable or declined ever since. Even though we
consume
twice as much as we did in the 1950s, people were just as happy when
they
had less.
3. How much of an average American's lifetime will be spent (on
average)
watching television commercials? a. 6 months b. 3 months c. 1 year d.
1.5
years
Answer: C. In contrast,
Americans on average spend only 40
minutes
a week playing with their children, and members of working couples talk
with one another on average only 12 minutes a day.
4. True or false? Americans carry $1 billion in personal debt, not
including
real estate and mortgages.
Answer: False. Americans carry
$1 trillion in personal debt,
approximately
$4,000 for every man, woman and child, not including real estate and
mortgages.
On average, Americans save only 4 percent of their income, in contrast
to the Japanese, who save an average of 16 percent.
5. Which activity did more Americans do in 1996? a. graduate from
college
b. declare bankruptcy
Answer: b. In 1996, more than
1 million Americans declared
bankruptcy,
three times as many as in 1986. Americans have more than 1 billion
credit
cards, and less than one-third of credit card holders pay off their
balances
each month.
6. In the industrialized world, where is the U.S. ranked in terms of
its income equality between the rich and the poor? (First being the
most
income-equal.) a. 1st b. 5th c. 12th d. 22nd
Answer: d. The income
disparity between the rich and the poor is
greatest in the U.S.
7. The world's 358 billionaires together possess as much money as
the
poorest _____ of the world's population? a. 15 percent b. 30 percent c.
50 percent d. 10 percent
Answer: c. Nearly 50 percent.
The world's 358 billionaires'
combined
assets roughly equal the assets of the world's poorest 2.5 billion
people.
8. Since 1950, Americans alone have used more of the earth's
resources
than:
a. everyone
who ever lived before them b. the combined
Third World populations
c. the Romans at the height of the Roman
Empire d. all
of the above
Answer: All of the above.
Since 1950, Americans alone have used
more
resources than everyone who ever lived before them. Each American
individual
uses up 20 tons of basic raw materials annually. Americans throw away 7
million cars a year, 2 million plastic bottles an hour and enough
aluminum
cans annually to make six thousand DC-10 airplanes.
9. Americans' total yearly waste would fill a convoy of garbage
trucks
long enough to:
a. wrap
around the Earth six times b. reach half-way
to the moon
c. connect the North and South Poles d. build
a bridge
between North America and China
Answer: a. and b. Even though
Americans comprise only five
percent
of the world's population, in 1996 we used nearly a third of its
resources
and produced almost half of its hazardous waste. The average North
American
consumes five times as much as an average Mexican, 10 times as much as
an average Chinese and 30 times as much as the average person in India.
10. Which president feared that untamed American capitalism might
create
a corrupt civilization?
a. Jimmy
Carter b. Ronald Reagan c. Theodore Roosevelt
d. Abraham Lincoln
Answer: c. President Theodore
Roosevelt feared that allowing
American
capitalism to develop unleashed would eventually create a corrupt
civilization.
He was a strong proponent of simple living.
How'd you do?
Life at the end
of the 20th century is confusing - It is increasingly the best of
times
... the worst of times to quote Dickens. About 100 years ago, one
of
the first sociologists, Emile Durkheim, charged that modern society was
afflicted with a social disease he defined as anomie, or
normlessness.
It is a notion that is similar to the spoiling of a child. Very
simply, the more we get, the more we want; but it is more complicated.
The idea is this. We begin life learning about what to expect. We come
to count on these expectations and are disappointed when they aren't
met.
If our desires are satiated beyond our expectations, our appetites for
these new rewards increase and so do our expectations, until we expect
rewards beyond actual reason.
See if this
sounds familiar. With
increased
prosperity desires increase. At the very moment when traditional rules
have lost their authority, the richer prize offered these appetites
stimulates
them and makes them more exigent and impatient of control. The state of
de-regulation or anomie is thus further heightened by passions being
less
disciplined, precisely when they need more disciplining. (Durkheim
in Suicide
(1987).
Merton
(1951) further explained. To the
degree
that regularity disappears in a (person's circle of significant
others),
the individual is in a normless situation, no matter how firm and
consistent
normative regulation may be elsewhere in the society ... Few facts are
so important in analyzing a society as those concerning the stability
of
normative patterns in the basic units of person-to-person interaction.
thus, divorce, extremely high mobility, and other forms of small group
dissolution provide clues to the total state of the social system. In
day-to-day
social life, what really matters most immediately to the individual is
what he can count up-on from his network of personal relationships.
Regularity - Logical Expectations -
Consistency
of Rewards
If we were to chart the general course of
American
Family Life from about 1920 to the present, we would find that access
to
material goods has increased steadily despite family financial ability
to pay for them. Things have become ends in themselves since we have
replaced
personal involvement and emotional attachment with things. And social
thinkers
would have us believe that this is bad because there are limits to our
ability to provide things.
Both parents working ultimately results in
neither
parent parenting. The more we work, the more we purchase, the more we
have
to maintain, the less time we have for personally handling the
cognitive,
emotional, and social development of those other things in our lives -
children. Children born to such families are probably more likely to
get
parenting from television (socialization, at any rate). Since the main
function of media is to sell us stuff (raise our interest in obtaining
things), it only takes a couple of generations of these urchins before
we just want stuff. What's the end result of all this?
Read the paper or watch the news.
- Man shoots Taco-Bell employee for
getting
order
wrong!
- Madman opens fire on unsuspecting
commuters -
Kills 5 Wounds 14.
- Children die in apartment fire while
mother parties
at local night spot.
- Shaken Baby syndrome on the rise.
- HIV positive Loverboy may have
infected as
many
as 20 women.
These are just the headlines, and these folks are
the bellwethers for an underlying lack of respect for our fellows. On a
day-to-day level, we experience shallow, self-serving treatment from
others
in almost every aspect of life - in the check out line, on the phone,
in
traffic, at the secondary level, and even from our primary group
members.
Certainly people are caught up in what we used
to call the rat race - trying to get ahead (of something),
keeping
up with the Joneses, looking out for number one. And we hardly ever ask
ourselves why we are doing all this.
Voluntary Simplicity is an old solution with a few new wrinkles to
modern
problems of overwork and dissatisfaction. One of the new wrinkles is
the
presence of support groups and information services on the internet.
In addition to the PBS Show Affluenza,
other media based "specials" are appearing in print media and their
online
counterpart websites:
Here are a few of
theirs taken directly from their resources page:
The whole idea is to get more out of life, enjoy your family more, have
more pride in your accomplishments, and be a little greener.
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